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“I’m not a feminist, but…”

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“I’m not a feminist, but [insert complaint about the patriarchy here].”
Am I the only one who is filled with rage at this? It’s collusion of the highest order. “Oh, I’m not one of those people working against you, but since I’m working for you, could you reward me as one of you own?”
Hint: they won’t. The patriarchy does not love you. It sees you as a disposable object, one of many interchangeable, identityless bodies. The patriarchy thinks you are flawed and defective and dirty. It tells you to be quiet and then blames you for not being loud enough. It tells you to be demure and then blames you for not fighting hard enough.
If you’re white enough, rich enough, skinny enough, straight enough – in short, if you’re privileged enough – you can get by. They might take you seriously if your skirt isn’t deemed “too short,” if you weren’t “too drunk,” if you didn’t know him. You probably won’t go without eating.
Perhaps, if you’re compliant – if you’re pretty and nurturing and don’t complain – you can eat the crumbs of their pie, if they’re feeling generous. What the hell? Why don’t you give up begging for their table scraps and help us make our own damn pie? I know you’re afraid of going hungry – we all are – but we’ve got the ingredients, between us all. It might not taste the same, but we’ve had the same pie for two thousand years or more. Don’t you think it’s starting to go a little stale?


Written by Fangirl

March 21, 2010 at 10:56 am

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  1. I think part of the issue is ‘feminist’ (like ‘liberal’ and ‘politically correct’) has been turned into a dirty word by conservatives. There are a lot of right-wing noisemakers who have used these words negatively for decades, and now there’s a knee-jerk angry reaction from a lot of folks whenever the term is used. It’s almost like witch trials – you have to tread VERY carefully or else you might find yourself accused and convicted in the court of public opinion! Of course, so far no one has started rounding up the feminists and burning them alive yet…

    Unfortunately I think it will take a lot more people like you to stand up and proclaim your feminism before the damage will be undone, and I don’t see it really changing anytime soon.


    May 2, 2010 at 5:41 am

  2. Yeah! You go! I generally hand people their ass when they try to pull that with me. Well maybe not so much handing them their ass as it is informing them feminists aren’t evil.

    Lesbian baiting is still a strong tactic used by the oppressors. Easier to divide and conquer through lies and outright propaganda than it is to share the pie. *shakes head*


    July 12, 2010 at 12:22 pm

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